Tips to keep the family fit and active.
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Posted on 7:30pm Sunday 11th Dec 2011
Listed under: Tips for mum
When to have baby number 2? The timing for everyone is different and my tip for anyone is you'll know when the time is right, all families are different. Sometimes a small gap works, sometimes a huge gap and sometimes one is simply perfect. I've personally found there can be a lot of pressure to have another because as I keep getting reminded I'll be starting all over again and my children might not play together.
So with that in mind I had to make a decision and so for me baby number 2 is on its way, only kidding but I do keep getting asked when I'll have my second. The majority of my friends have either had their second, pregnant or planning. It's a question I get asked a lot and my decision to go down to one class a week and the fact I've always been open about the fact I'd like a another seems to have been misleading. My plans to have another child isn't why I'm doing one class a week now, providing I was well enough I'd continue to run the classes for as long as I could and is safe to do so. Exercise is good for you in pregnancy. I've purely gone to one class because of time of year, other projects for the business as well as doing some more training. This is a temporary change. I'm definitely not pregnant, nor are we planning to be pregnant any time soon and this is a decision both me and my hubby are happy about.
I've never made a secret of the fact that if I'm blessed enough I'd like another one day but actually that was the wrong phrase. I am blessed, I have wonderful daughter Peta-Summer and hubby and if I never had another child that would be fine – they are my world and I don't feel anything is my life is missing. My life is complete and very happy, in fact I've never been so happy. I only ever wanted another because I have two awesome sisters and I'd like a sibling for Pie (Peta-Summer), but that's if I think one day we are ready.
My hubby is ready to be honest but I'm not and I'm lucky that he is equally happy to wait. When I was pregnant I felt awful. I ended up in hospital when I should have been at my blessing, when into shock after giving birth, struggled to breastfeed, suffered post-natal depression and was judged on many occasions for being a young mum (22). The thought of having another terrifies me.
I want to have another when I can deal with all the above (should it happen) without any other worries, but at the moment I do like everyone have other worries. My daughter for one starts school in September and after very difficult and emotional time settling her in pre-school my priority is all about getting her ready for school.
I've also been advised after my last smear not to think about trying until I get the go ahead. Financially it's not the best time to have another child and whilst as a parent you always find a way to get by I don't just want to find a way to get by. I'd rather focus on my business and get it to where we can be comfortable and then if the 3 of us are ready we'll talk about baby number 2.
For us life is good as a 3.